Disclaimer: the photos are in reverse order for some reason. Just a heads up. A lot to pack in here as it’s been a big six months!
4th grade finishing up
You are about to be done with your 4th grade year – which is simply unreal. Your teach, Mrs. Schneider, I think I mentioned, is the mother of your best friend Cora. She’s not in your class but you guys hang out all the time at school and a lot of time outside of school. You got to go on some great field trips this year (see pics below when mom drove), you are starting to get into some challenging math (but you are still testing at or above your level), and you absolutely love school – so much so that you get mad at us for making you miss it to go on fantastic trips. You still love St. Joe’s as well. As we do every year we will re-evaluate whether to keep you there, but my guess is we will.
We also had another daddy/daughter dance and had a blast. I took you out to dinner, we danced, we took pics, and had a fantastic time. Your friends and you hung out a lot, but you still made plenty of time for me as you always do.
You are also using the computer on a very regular basis for both school and shopping nowadays. 🙂
Soccer
You are playing in the North Boise Futbol League (NBFL) and have a number of friends on the team from school. You had to tryout for this one and made the team. You play primarily defense, and are actually a fantastic defended. You have played forward a bit, but you, at least at this point, are not very aggressive and therefore defense is far more your speed.
You really love soccer. It is the sport that you have really taken to and that you have dedicated a lot of time to. I am going to go out on a limb and say you’re probably not going pro in it (as I write this I feel bad saying this, but when I picture you at 18 reading this I kinda laugh a little) but it is something you enjoy. You are also at the age when it is finally fun to watch your games as you are not all just absolutely terrible anymore (again, feel bad now – laughing when you read).
LA Trip
We did the LA trip this year. Last year we were scheduled to go in November but you got sick the night before and we had to abort the trip (your mom still whines about that to this day and I am sure will never forget). But this year we did it – flew out on an early Friday morning and back Sunday evening.
We started with renting a Tesla and heading to the American Girl Doll store in Century City. You wanted new clothes for your dolls and we of course splurged and got more. Ethan got some legos and dad got a new Travis Matthews hat. We met Kelly for lunch at Shake Shack, and then headed to the JW Marriott downtown where we were staying.
This was hilarious because it was really the first time you have ever sat in traffic. We sat on the 10 for a good 45 minutes and you kept asking why no one was moving. Your mom was of course getting car sick, you were asking questions, and your brother was whining. I was driving because your mom can no longer handle driving in congested areas.
Once we got to the hotel we went swimming and ordered food to to pool for a few hours. We then met Aunt Maddie and went to mexican food, El Cholo was the name of the restaurant.
Saturday we woke up and relaxed for a bit before heading to campus. We then walked around and mom showed you USC as the tailgating continued. We went to the bookstore and spent way too much money decking you out with all the gear that you see in the pictures (dad got nothing and mom wasn’t happy). After watching the marching band then come through campus, we walked over towards the stadium. We first stopped off at the National History Museum of Los Angeles because they had the shuttle Endeavor. After leaving the museum we went to the sold out game. USC was playing Washington, who at the time was I believe #2 in the country. There were 90k+ people in the stadium – more people in one place than either of you had ever seen. You handled it well (was expecting you to be overwhelmed) and we stayed for nearly the entire game. In the end Washington ended up winning by a touchdown (don’t feel bad, they played for the national championship later in the year). We then headed back to the hotel.
The next morning we got up and went to Pasadana to a park right next to the Rose Bowl and met Aunt Maddie and Justin. You guys played on the playground while we chatted with them and met their dog Thor. After a while we headed back to the hotel, packed up our things and went to the airport. It was a great trip on a number of levels – but for me the big one was the exposure for you guys to that many people, some real diversity, traffic, and some great food.
Friends
You have really cultivated a solid friend group. You have had friends over the years but seems like the last year has been different in that you all hang out not just at school but outside. Avery and Cora seem to be your besties – Sandrine, Ava, Lucy, Alexis, and probably a bunch of other names I am forgetting are also close friends. Maci in our neighborhood and you have become quite close, while you have navigated away from Ellie next door. It is a very interesting dynamic that is every-evolving.
All that said we are so happy to see you have so many good friends, and ones that (at least at this point) are respectful and sweet. You only deserve the best and so far you have surrounded yourself with such.
Layla
As I write this, Layla is about 11 years and 4 months old. For a lab that is rather old since they average about 10 years. Right now she is still in pretty good shape. She has a bunch of growths and lumps, but is still eating normally and has plenty of energy. I take her to the vet a couple times every year for a physical and get her blood taken at least once a year, and so far nothing bad has shown up.
I am writing about her because you have taken a serious liking to her over the last couple years. Not that you ever dismissed or didn’t like her, but as you have gotten older you have really connected with her and go out of your way to please her. You take her on walks around the block almost daily, you feed her about as much as I do, you bring her treats and buy her toys and you always give her a ton of pets.
I love this about you. You are so sweet and loving with her. My problem is that her time is short, and I don’t know how you are going to handle it when we have to put her down. Layla has been the dog to your mom and I well before you were born – but to be honest, Layla and I have spent the majority of time together. I trained her, I walk her, I feed her most of the time, I snuggle and kiss her and I am incredibly attached. This is not to say your mom is not involved or doesn’t love her…she just isn’t as attached or loves her as much as I do. I have always worried about how I would react when she dies – I am really going to struggle to keep it together. Now, I am more worried about you and how you will deal with it. I hate having this outlook of thinking about her death, but realistically it’s coming and perhaps not that far from now. I just want you to know how much you love her, how much she loves you, and what an incredible owner you are to her. She is so lucky to have you.
Well, as always, I am sure I have missed a million things. Next time I write to you you will be a 5th grader. I know it’s lame but I just cannot believe how fast your are growing up. Please stay sweet, please stay kind, and please love me when you read this as much as you do now.
I know it sounds weird, but yes – 4th grade. Well maybe not weird to you. But it seems so old. I think about myself in 4th grade – Franks/Fix. Those are the names of my teachers. They did a weird combined class that year so there were 60 of us in the same class. The first day of class I walked in and my girlfriend at the time Felicia Kondrat (yep, had a girlfriend), yelled out to me with a number of other girls to come sit with them. I started crying and ran out of class. This is actually a real story. My mom came to school and let me come home with her.
You were much better. You have friends that you have had for years and have acclimated quite well. Your teacher is Mrs. Schneider, and your best friend is Cora, her daughter. You see Cora every morning and you guys hug. It’s not just cute, but comforting to know that you have such a good friend.
You started only like a month ago so we will see how things go – but so far so good. You still love school and are a terrific student, always doing your homework even if you struggle with it.
Airstream Camping & Fishing
We actually did quite a bit of camping this summer in the Airstream, although not as much as we would have liked. We spent time at both North Fork and Wood River campgrounds north of Ketchum. We also went to Alturas lake with your friend Avery and their family.
We also took it to McCall for Memorial Day, and as you can see you caught some fish! Not only did you cast it, reel it in, get it off the hook – but most impressively, you cleaned it! You and I always had a deal about keeping fish, that if you wanted to keep and eat them then you had to clean them. This time around, you did it and we ate it for dinner. You are becoming a little mountain girl.
We are heading out one more time this season before we put the Airstream (Bernadette, or Bernie) for the season, but I can’t wait to make more memories with you next year and many years after camping in it.
Competitive Soccer
You started competitive soccer this year, as in you had to try out and get placed. You just kicked (pun intended) off the season and so far love it. You are playing with many of your friends that go to St. Joes. We are very early on with it, but so far you seem to love it.
Goro
You have a stuffed animal named Goro. Something tells me that when you read this you will still have him as you are inseparable. He sleeps with you every night and go with you most places. It’s a weird little monkey thing that Ethan actually bought for you as a gift. Fortunately we have not forgotten him yet, but just waiting for the night when we are away from home and didn’t remember him as it will be a rough one.
In the same vein, you guys have easily over 100 “stuffies” as you call them. You have named every single one of them and you play pretend with them all the time. It is one of the favorite activities of both you and your brother, and you do it together nearly every day.
Day-to-day
You definitely have some anxiety, but it is mild for now. Your mom has struggled with anxiety for most of her life so it’s not surprising that you have it as well. It normally comes out when you meet new people, we are doing something for the first time, when you are away from us for too long, or when mom’s anxiety kicks in and scares you (driving, for example). It’s not debilitating by any means, but it is something we are monitoring closely. We are looking for you to talk to a therapist to see if that helps. Your mom has never (at least until now) properly addressed her anxiety so my hope is that it will help her do it as well.
The anxiety, or so we think, has also lead to ticks. You have a number of ticks that have developed and new ones come up now and then. This takes the form of rolling your eyes up into your head, little coughing, little sniffles, blinking, grinding teeth, etc. This one I hate to say you got from me. I had ticks growing up but were a little different in that my main one was blinking. I noticeably blinked a lot (still do sometimes) and it was normally triggered when I was nervous or anxious. I also did (and still do) a lot of counting in my head, which I learned later on is symptom of autism. I have not been diagnosed autistic by any stretch, but a lot of my ticks were in my head and didn’t show on the outside. I don’t know if you count, but I think you might. You tell us that you can’t control the ticks and that you “have” to do them. I have been open with you about me having had them as a child and have shared some tips that helped me control them.
You have also started to push back a bit, specifically with your mom. It has begun! You guys fight about your hair the most, when she wants to style it or cut it. I am learning how to mediate as I obviously get caught in the middle, especially when I agree with you (which is a lot of the time) and being able to help you two to a resolution. You are a total daddy’s girl which also makes it harder for your mom – but I wouldn’t change it.
You are still incredibly sweet, loving, well-behaved and smart. You find so much joy in things, and your best friend is easily your brother. As you can see from the photos below you do most everything together. You guys have your fights, but for the most part play incredibly well. You are both very imaginative and will come up with completely made up games and narratives within those games, then play them out for hours.
We are so lucky to have you. You are an incredibly special child, and I can’t wait to talk to you again when you turn double digits.
Since I am not giving this to you until you are 18, you should know by now that I am quite immature. You probably won’t get this movie reference either unless I have raised you right, but whenever I hear “niner” I think of it
Thinking about what I just said above, it just dawned on me that we are halfway through this story. I don’t mean that the story ends at 18 but rather that is when you will receive this.
I came up with this idea not so much out of needing to capture things to remember as you might think (your probably know by now that my memory isn’t great). I started it so that I could have a place to reflect on your life at that time in my life. What I mean is that I could go back and look at pictures and remember things that happened, but this allows me to reflect on these experiences in the moment in which they are occurring.
In life there are ups and downs, and even with you only having been in this world 9 years I have had a lot of them. I think back to the first posts I wrote, well before you were born (I don’t even remember what I said, and never go back and read them). The feelings I had about being a dad, the new experiences that came out of that time, the excitement and terror. But it would be impossible for me to properly reflect on that time as I write this now. What you will read there will be me at the time – a 29 year old with no kids, a low level/low stress job, having a lot of firsts like buying a house, having a dog, just 2 years in Boise and not knowing if we were staying, and in this case also about to have a baby. As I write this as a 38 year old, we are now on to our 3rd home, have two children, an executive level/high stress job, a 10 year old dog, and established in a city we will call home (barring anything crazy) until you are grown and gone.
The last 9 years for me has seen more change in it than my first 29 combined, both personally and professionally. Professionally, I have had major highs like selling Balihoo, dramatically increasing my salary, becoming an executive at 30, being part of a company raising money, part of a company going public and now at a new one on a similar trajectory where I get to run a function that will dramatically affect the bottom line, managing teams of over 250 people, etc. But also lows like dealing with stress for the first time in my life, working for people so bad that it sent me to therapy, laying off or firing over 100 people already in my career, being belittled and criticized for decisions I made, and more.
The last 9 years personally have seen the same. Highs like having two amazing and unbelievable children, being able to take our family on more trips that I can count, teaching you and Ethan to ride a bike, to ski, to fish, and learning about and experiencing new hobbies myself like mountain biking and really learning to love golf. But then lows – like managing a marriage with all the stresses these things bring, managing our lives everyday and all day, anxiety that I have never experienced before, people dying, my weight, a struggle with drinking at times, and more.
The point is this: reflection on your life from my perspective, IN THE MOMENT, is the goal of this. I will feel completely different and likely have different perspectives in 5 years when I am writing this as you turn 14. And as I reflect on us being halfway through this little present I will give you eventually, I just want you to know why I did it. I did it because life is amazing/hard/surprising/depressing and a bunch of other emotions – and they come and go at difference times. I also did it because I love you so much it causes me pain at times, and I really hope that this is something you love and cherish. I hope for all these things when you read this.
Sick little germ trap
Ok let’s move on to what is happening – the first that jumps out is that you guys are disgusting little sickened things. You, Ethan, Mom and then finally me were sick for like 3 months from early November through January. It started with you, as you picked something up from someone in your class. it happened the night before we were supposed to leave for a trip for LA in the morning to go to a USC football game and spend a couple days in the city. We woke up the following morning and, not easily as you were denying it to being, got it out of you that you weren’t feeling well. We made the quick decision (at 5am mind you) to postpone the trip to the next day and see how you felt. We were very glad we did, as the next day you were far worse. Would have been a miserable trip (however, see below for a silver lining).
Ethan was next a few days later. He developed a cough (that mom freaked herself out about as being asthma for like weeks, which was never confirmed), and while you still had a cough he got a bit worse. This lasted basically all of November.
Later in November your mom also got sick. You hear about “man flu” in which men overreact to a simple sickness – well your mom is the drama queen in our household. She was bedridden for a day and had a cough, and then was able to manage. I was able to avoid all this sickness while caring for you all full-time.
Then in mid-December, I got covid. Had not had it the entire 3 years it existed and finally got it. Fortunately, it was not bad. I felt kind of crappy for a couple days but didn’t take me down. However, your mom insisted that I quarantined. So for 8 days I stayed in the guest room, finally coming out really for the first time with you guys on Christmas morning. I had tested negative finally and got to hang. I joke that is was the best Christmas present ever, 8 days to myself in a room with a queen bed, tv, computer and full bathroom. If I had had a mini fridge I could have stayed in there forever.
While I was quarantining per your mom’s request, she got sicker than I was and was caring for you both the entire time. She tested for covid a number of times, convinced that she had it, but always tested negative as did both of you. I believe she mentally made herself sick, as it would not be the first time she had done this. I was out on Christmas and we headed to SV that afternoon after presents that morning.
Then you and Ethan both got sick again in January – and finally by February you were ok. Kind of a weird update, but the sickness caused a lot of chaos and made us miss the LA trip which we are rescheduling now for next year.
Oh, the silver lining. Well, an agency vendor of mine happened to reach out that Friday when we were supposed to leave and offered me club level seats for game 5 of the World Series the following night in Houston (playing the Phillies). Since you were sick (and after a lot of negotiation with your mother, and afterwards I caught a lot of shit for), I went to the game with a friend who had a son in Ethan’s class. Astros clinched the series that game, making it the second WS clinching game I had seen (2001 Diamondbacks was the first). I am not glad we had to cancel the LA trip, but definitely will remember that experience forever. Here is a pic:
Airstream
We bought a 2022 Airstream. Yep. My hope is that by the time you read this it is a familiar thing for you as we have gone out in it hundreds of time and you are well versed.
We used it once before winter and had to put it away – went to Ponderosa outside McCall for one night with Moya and Clint and their kids. Since then it has been sitting in a storage unit. We have about 9 camping trips planned this summer, so will have a better update at your 9.5 update.
Other Items
You read like it’s your job. You read long books and short books. You read more than anyone in your class. You love it and cannot get enough books.
We again did Wagon Days – check out the cutest picture ever below
You chose the Halloween attire again. You chose “traditional halloween costumes”. You were a pumpkin and Ethan was a vampire.
You have a new stuffed animal named Goro. You are attached to him like no other comfort toy ever.
Layla turned 10 :).
Conclusion
I cannot believe we are halfway through this journey to adulthood. Will never be able to explain how fast it goes and how incredible it is. But I can say, confidently, at this time, in this moment, and as I write this – I think you are turning out amazing. I genuinely could not ask for a better, more loving, more beautiful and caring daughter. I am so proud of you, and so excited to see what you do.
You are 8 1/2 going on 16. I think probably most parents feel this way, and I am also sure that you are not as dramatic as most girls your age. In fact, I know it. But, you have discovered selfies in a big way as you can see evidenced in the photos below.
A lot has happened these last 6 months, so let’s jump in with some high level items:
Visited Tita in palm Springs
You made your 5th (or 6th. can’t keep track) trip to Maui
You graduated 2nd grade!
You started 3rd grade!
Dad got a new job
You are finally good enough at soccer that’s it’s not painful to sit and watch, and you scored your first goal!
Your cousins all came and visited for 4 days
You mom and I celebrated our 13 year anniversary
We visited Sun Valley many, many times
…just to name a few
School
You are officially a 3rd grader! You finished the year with Mrs Zito, and learned over the summer that you will have Mrs. Patrick for 3rd grade. Can’t remember which of your friends are in her class vs the other, but some of your friends include: Avery, Alexis, Lucy, Paytin, Norah, Cora and a bunch more I am probably missing. You still love school, and you are testing at a 3rd/4th grade level in both reading and math (the only two you were tested in so far).
You began 3rd grade middle of August, and you were so excited to return. You and Ethan are at the same school for the first time and you couldn’t be happier about it.
You absolutely love to read as well. You read dozens of books over the summer. There were plenty of times when I would get out of bed in the morning thinking you were still sleeping, only to pop my head in and finding you in your chair with your light on reading. You had been up for some time already.
Art is still your favorite – and when asked that is what you want to do for a living when older. We even talked about college the other day and you said you want to major in Art and Minor in Art as well. You also said that you are going to stay and live in Boise forever with us – your mom is pretty excited about that prospect…I am on the fence :).
Trips
As always, we went to Sun Valley for the 4th of July. We stayed for about a week, which was the limit before your mom was on the edge of physically attacking Papa. We also went a number of other times. We fished, biked, camped at Lola Creek, went to Stanley, had great meals, did waterslides, played in your treehouse and much more. You guys are enjoying it more and more each time we go now.
We also went and saw Tita over your spring break. Your friend Paytin and here family were there, as was my friend Jeff and his family. We did the Living Desert, had In-n-Out, did pool time and more. We were going to get together with the other families, but unfortunately you got pretty sick so you and I spent most of the trip having you rest. Took you to urgent care and we spent 4 hours for them to tell us you were negative for everything. This was still during prominent covid cases so that added another fun dynamic. Overall though, to be honest I enjoyed it. Your mom and Ethan went out and did activities to keep him from going nuts and we just hung out and read and watched shows. With the exception of you not feeling well, it was great to get the quality time together.
We took another trip to Maui, and the big note this time was that it was the most enjoyable trip we had all been on. This was due to a few factors: you can both ride on planes without assistance (just need tablets/coloring stuff), getting you to sleep is easy nowadays, you can dress and feed yourselves, you can play independent of us and you love to play with each other. But, the biggest change is that you can swim! No longer are we having to worry about you sinking like a stone. We went to the pool everyday, and you jumped right in. We would come in with you, and also sometimes read a book while you swam. As you guys get older these trips become more and more fun.
It wasn’t a trip for us, but your cousins also came and visited – and this was by far the highlight of your summer. You were so excited to see them and they all stayed at the house with us. You had sleepovers with them every night, and played with them all day. We are planning on meeting them again next summer in Monterey to do the aquarium.
Soccer
You are also a soccer star! Well, that might be a bit generous. You are getting better, and you are pretty fast though. We are working on the aggressiveness, but your ball handling is actually pretty solid. You are hesitant when on the field about going after the ball, but so is basically everyone on your team. You play on a team with a bunch of St. Joe’s girls that you are friends with and it is easily your favorite activity (to your mom’s chagrin as you like it more than dance).
You also scored your first goal! The part that was so cool was that before we left to go to the game we were at home and you, out of the blue, said to me “Dad, I am going to score a goal today”. Then you went out and did it, early in the game even. For a team that scored maybe a handful of goals all season (as a team you didn’t win a single game), it was cool that you were able to get one. You also handled it like you had been there before. A lot of the girls on other teams, and some on yours, when they score they run around screaming or doing cartwheels and shit. You scored and ran back to the middle of the field for the kickoff as your team patted you on the back on the way. Couldn’t have been more proud of you.
Family
Figured it would be worth introducing a section on the rest of us as well moving forward.
Ethan finished up preschool and just started Kindergarten with you! You are both so excited. We looked at Riverstone for him as well as you are each a little different, but he wanted to be at school with you, which we couldn’t deny.
Mom is preparing for having both of you at school all day as this will be the first time. You go from 8-3, so there is a 7 hour block for her to fill. You would think this would be something exciting for her, but instead she is already missing you guys being around. We also hit 13 years this year married – which is just insane.
Big news for me is that I took a new job. I mentioned in my last post that I would start looking, and I recently accepted a role with a company called Shiftkey as the VP, Growth Marketing. It is a tech company that matches part time nurses with facilities that need them through an app and software. My job is to get both more nurses and facilities on the platform. I was at Vacasa for almost 4.5 years, and am excited to get back to the tech world.
Other than all that – business as usual. You are still incredibly sweet, love your brother more than anything, are an incredible student and an even better daughter.
It has been a big 6 months. The world is returning to normal – or at least the new normal. There was a new variant after my last post called omicron, but it has since passed. You and your brother are now fully vaccinated! Really fun too, taking you to do that…
You are thriving in the second grade. Reading every day, and a model student. You have Mrs. Zito and you love her. You are also still very into art, but taking a liking to soccer as well. Just look at these pics and you will see how much older you now look, it is incredible.
We went to Tucson for Thanksgiving and stayed with Boppie. Aunt Maddie and Nonnie also came down, and we had a great time. We went to Colossal Caves, the Sonoran Desert Museum and spent a lot of time at Boppie’s house just checking out the desert and wildlife. We spent a week down there and were all ready to come back at the end.
The big new though, the highlight of the last 6 months, and hopefully you remember it because my god it was expensive was… DISNEYLAND! We spent 3 days at the parks.
We decided it was time. You were nearly eight and your brother was five, and thought that it would be great ages for your first experience. Not only did we take you, but we surprised you on Christmas Day with the trip. We had you do a scavenger hunt with clues (you had to read them to Ethan) that eventually ended back in the formal living room where we gave you gifts with Disney shirts and swag and let you know we were going. We left January 3rd.
You were still on Christmas break so you didn’t miss any school. We got there Monday night and then did Disneyland the 4th, California Adventure the 5th, and then both parks on the 6th and flew home that night. We stayed at the Grand Californian Hotel which was attached to California Adventure.
I don’t think I can list all the rides we went on, but let’s just say we covered almost all of them. Your favorite ride, to my surprise and delight, was Space Mountain. We must have gone on it 3 or 4 times while there. ED loved Splash Mountain and Autotopia. We also had dinner one night at the Blue Bayou and watched the Pirates of the Caribbean ride go as we ate dinner. Corn dogs were a popular meal, as were the Mickey waffles each morning for breakfast. One afternoon/evening we hung by the pool and ordered food to our chairs while you both played.
We brought a stroller along to haul the two of you, and the first day one of the wheels popped and lost all its air. I took it to the stroller distribution place there at Disneyland, but the air pump was broken, which meant we (me) just had to push it the whole time with a flat tire.
You and I went on Indiana Jones together by ourselves as Ethan was not tall enough, and we were both underwhelmed. We also went on the ferris wheel in California Adventure, and I almost passed out as my fear of heights had grown significantly and I didn’t know it.
It was an amazing, expensive and exhausting trip.
We have been skiing a lot together and you continue to improve. I am hoping by next year that we can just head up and I won’t have to worry about you anymore (still have some work to do with Ethan).
On a personal note, my company (Vacasa) went public in December! I even got to be on the big screen in Times Square (actually twice, and yes that is Layla – couldn’t fit the whole family so had to choose). Now that we are public, I have started to entertain new job opportunities as I don’t really have a desire to work for a public company.
You are still just as loving, caring and wonderful as ever – I hope it never changes. You have a ton of friends, get along with almost everyone and are incredibly mannerly. Couldn’t ask for more from an eight year old.
We went to Sun Valley (a bunch), Palm Desert, Maui and probably other places I am forgetting. We are doing much more, for the first time in nearly two years. We are not out of the woods yet – Covid is still real and you are still not vaccinated. But mom and dad are vaccinated, and we are getting back to the life we love, even though we are not there yet.
Funny story. We had plans to go to Maui in April of this year (2021). It was going to be the first trip we had done since January of 2020 due to the covid outbreak. Being blunt, as I normally am, your mother and I see this whole thing a bit differently. If you can imagine this – she is overboard cautious and I am likely underboard (is that a word?) concerned. She is quite scared of this thing while I don’t see it as a serious threat, more like a cold/flu that you should try to protect against and be aware of, but not something to change the world for. We will see how this opinion ages in time :).
Anyway – we had Maui planned and both really wanted to go, as did both of you. Your mom was reticent if we were not vaccinated, which I can understand but would not have stopped me. We continued to converse about it for weeks. Finally she came to the conclusion that if we were not vaccinated that we could not travel. I of course would respect her wishes, but also realllllly want to go.
The Saturday morning following this decision I woke up and decided I needed to solve for it. I left early (after brining you guys your hot chocolate that you get every Saturday morning – you also get donuts every Sunday), and went to the pharmacies. We were not yet eligible to get the vaccine as it was reserved only for those that were 65+ or had illnesses that warranted it. But you could go to the various places and get on wait lists, and if someone didn’t show they would give you a ring and you could come get the dose so it didn’t go to waste (it was time sensitive).
I went to 8 pharmacies. All 8 put me on a list with very little expectations around calling. But, around 3:30 that day, I got a call from Fred Meyer up on Federal Way. They had two doses that were going to go un-used, but they needed to be used by 4pm. I told your mom, we, almost literally, threw you both in the car, and headed up. We got our first dose and were guaranteed our second while there. It gave your mom the solace she needed to get on a plane and fly to Maui (btw, for the last two years nearly it has been required to wear masks on planes, and many other places, which is why you are wearing them in the pictures).
As you can see in the pictures below, we had a blast in Maui. In August, after we and Tita were fully vaccinated, we also went to Palm Desert for her 90th birthday. Sun Valley and McCall have also been places we have been going as my company is still work from home and will be likely forever – so we go vacation and I can just work from wherever we are.
Buggy, you are becoming quite the skier. Spent a lot of time with you over the winter and even after your 7th birthday as it was a long season, and you are improving each day. Normally you and I just go up. We can ski green runs together, and I am always amazed at your progress.
You are a beautiful girl. Still as sweet as ever. You are also starting to develop your personality. You are beginning to come into your own. I love that, but also makes me sad as I know I will lose some of the attachment as that occurs. It’s perfectly normal and healthy – but it still saddens me a bit.
I also worry about how working from home will impact all of us and the expectations that are set. Prior to covid I would be in the office after I dropped you at school (8am) and home by 6:30pm. This new work from home setup is far more preferable for seeing you and Ethan, but I worry that since I can see you more and in between meetings, that when I leave it will seem like I work more than I did, which is obviously not the case. This is a new thought I have had recently so just wanted to capture it here – I hope this does not come to fruition.
I cannot tell you how much you mean to me. You are the light that fills my day. When I cannot sleep, travel or have anxiety/restlessness – you are the factor that calms me. I just think of you. While you never know how things are going to work out, and I know that we will have our issues in the future just based on how life evolves, I hope we always stay close. You are my rock. I don’t know how else to say it. You will never know the impact and happiness that you brought to my life. I hope you just keep being you, because you are amazing.
I feel it and say it in a lot of these posts – but the fact that you’re seven is not easy to accept. You are walking, talking, eating, spelling, reading, doing math, socializing, having your own opinions, learning, trying new things, pushing back, questioning, get sad, get angry, get happy, get ambitious – and so many other things. You are really a human coming into your own, and as your dad who has seen it the whole way it is never lost on me just how amazing it is, and you are.
As you can see from some of these pics, you are coming into your own. You have a little attitude about you at times now, although it is only with us and it is still incredibly well mannered. You are taking more risks. We see this in the activities and sports that you do, as well as the social situations that you enter into that you would not have previously. You are still an amazing big sister – one that Ethan can always count on and you spend so much time helping him learn who he is and how to be.
You will notice that in these pictures that you are, for the most part, around anyone other than us. That is because Covid-19 is still a thing, and the world is pretty much shut down in 2021. There is a vaccine for adults now, and you mom and I will get it as soon as we can. But as far as kids go there is nothing yet. Until that happens, there isn’t a whole lot we can do. I really find it interesting to think about how history books years from now will reflect back on this event as it is unpronounced in our world’s history.
As a result, that will make this post a bit boring. You are still in school, and you are doing fantastic – testing above your grade level in every category. You have to wear a mask every day, and keep distance between you and your friends. To this point (fingers crossed) we have not got covid. It is a weird time, but I am grateful that you are at St. Joe’s and not in public school as you are able to stay in during a very integral time in your learning and development.
In the latter half of your first grade year you are really into reading. You don’t care for math as much, but are still quite good at it. You want to be an artist when you grow up, and are producing more pictures/paintings at home and school than we can find a place for.
While this will be a short post, please don’t see it as a boring or non-consequential one. You are thriving – that’s the bottom line. You are kind, empathetic, sweet, happy and caring. I know it sounds lame to say this…but you are perfect. Sometimes that leads to not saying a lot.
I cannot wait for your next b-day and to update you on the way the world has shifted, as right now it seems to happen daily.
It might not seem like it in the scheme of things, but this is actually a hard thing to keep up with. I can’t tell you how fast the time flies by and then I realize it is time for another post. I then go back through the pictures of the last six months just to remember what happened and am always amazed and how much has occurred.
That said, I love writing these posts. I look forward to it every time I get to do it for you or your brother’s website. The reason is it reminds me just how much fun we have as a family, and makes me smile.
While the above is true, this has probably been the hardest six months in my life and many others in this world. We have been dealing with a pandemic that started just after your birthday, around mid-March, that has shut the entire world down. It is called coronavirus, or Covid-19, and it is a virus that has so far killed millions of people and infected hundreds of millions more.
Covid-19
Ok – so I am going to write this section so that it can be repurposed on Ethan’s website as well. Reason being that it will be long, and it is also applicable to you both. I think it’s worthwhile to have you both know the same story, but also what each was doing and how they did during the pandemic.
On March 9th I landed in Portland to visit my team there, at the time working for Vacasa (still there). There was this new virus that was just starting to make national headlines called Covid-19, or the coronavirus. At this point it was pretty much the first time hearing about it and there was very little known. All I knew was that it had come from Wuhan China, and at the time they said someone there had eaten a bat and contracted it. The virus was, at this time, spreading fast in Wuhan, but they had basically shut the entire region down to avoid mass spread.
I went into my executive meeting that day knowing very little. Our entire exec team had turned over at that time and so we had three new additions from OpenTable. This was my second time meeting our new CEO, but my first meeting the others in person. I remember one of the execs elbow bumped me (the virus spread through touch and was airborne) while the other shook my hand. At this time it was more of a joke than anything. I stayed in PDX that night, went to dinner with my team, worked from the office the next day, and flew back that night not knowing that it would be the last time traveling for a great deal of time.
When I got home everything went nuts. The virus was spreading rapidly, all across Europe and hitting countries like Italy very hard. Quarantines were put in place across Europe, and a travel ban to Europe was put in place by Trump, our current president.
NOTE* I won’t be able to do a play-by-play here as it would take too long to explain, so just know that there are plenty of things I am omitting and perhaps getting wrong. It all happened very fast.
Within a week it was a worldwide issue, which countries shutting down borders and putting in place stay-at-home mandates. My office, as was pretty much every other office in the country, was closed sometime in mid-March, moving us all to a remote work environment. States and cities shut down businesses that were non-essential – think restaurants, salons, movie theatres, bars, sports, etc. Only non-essential businesses like grocery stores, pharmacies and other businesses that the public required stayed open.
It would be impossible to capture how this changed the landscape of our society, likely forever. E-commerce food delivery services like Grubhub and UberEats blew up, since going to a restaurant was prohibited. As did grocery delivery either to your house or outside pickup. Streaming services like Netflix and Hulu saw a huge boom as people were at home all the time, and companies like Zoom emerged as market leaders as they offered video=conferencing capabilities that now everyone would have to rely on as they were now working remotely. All professional sports shut down, all movie and tv production shut down, all travel was shut down so no one was flying or staying in hotels. Everyone was pretty much forced to stay at home. The virus spread through interaction with others so no one could be near one another. It is like nothing that has occurred since the spanish flu, and it spared no one. It affected everyone, everywhere. As I write this we are still on lock-down for the most part. Still working from home, still not going out to eat, still getting groceries delivered, and still not seeing family members as it is not worth the risk. A vaccination is being developed at a rapid pace, but until that arrives we are bound to our homes.
This is taking a toll on the entire population and has changed life forever. I am going to get to the impact on you guys and our family, but I want to capture something specific that I went through as it was the hardest thing I have ever done in my career, and one of the hardest things in my life. I share it from a place of you never knowing it occurred, probably until now, but that even parents are emotional beings tackle some things are nearly impossible to handle. Growing up , at least for me, I always looked at my parents as not only infallible, but also as ready to handle any situation that comes up with objective means. I realized as I got older, and got to know my parents better, that this was not at all true, and now have many stories that in my childhood seemed like no big deal to me but only because they handled it with unwavering ability.
I work in the travel industry. I currently am a VP of Digital for a multi-billion dollar company that offers vacation rentals. Basically, instead of taking your family on vacation and stay in a hotel, we have a huge inventory of homes that owners lease out for vacationers. My job is to get those homes booked through our e-commerce site, vacasa.com, and out channel partners (airbnb, vrbo, booking.com, etc.). At it’s core, we sell vacations.
Covid completely halted our business. Once the state and city mandates, and later the federal mandates, rolled out, there was basically no travel allowed. You could not fly anywhere or travel anywhere without an incredibly good reason. Parents, siblings and other family members would die, and no one could attend their funeral because the risk of getting covid was too high. This lead to over 90% of our bookings getting cancelled in March and April of 2020.
With a revenue hit like that you have to make changes. Our company was also not in a stellar financial or cash position. In fact, we were in a terrible position. We had recently ousted our CEO and brought in a new one, and that was one of the reasons. We had enough cash to pay our owners their commission only through May, and all of our reservations just went off the books. When facing a position like that you have to create cash, and the easiest way to free up cash is getting rid of people.
Our exec team was meeting every day in response to this crisis, and doing our best to manage it. But knowing our position, we knew layoffs had to happen. We were each given a number we needed to reach, and then a list of our employees and told to get to that number. At the time I had a team of 108 people, and was asked to cut 30-40%. We also needed to turn this around in about 3 days and also keep it quiet from the company. In addition to this, all execs were taking a 25% pay reduction for 3 months, which would be paid back after the wave passed (if it did). I was making $210k at the time, so we were ok with this financially, but it was still quite scary.
So I spent two or three awful days deciding how I was going to make this cut. I went through the decisions day and night, and while some were easy others were insanely hard. It never left my mind either that whoever I cut would go into a job market that does not want them. Every company was doing what we were doing and their opportunities would be next to nothing. These people have families, bills, responsibilities and I was choosing to put them in a spot that would disable them from delivering against those things. It was also never lost on my how lucky I was to be the one making these decisions and not being on the receiving end of one.
Friday, March 20th was the day we delivered this news. I laid off a total of 44 employees that day. I did it over a Zoom videoconference.
Following the layoffs was a much needed weekend to reflect and try to wrap my head around things. I was working 14 hour days and dealing with things I had never faced in my life. I had fired people before either for cause or because their role was no longer necessary, but never in an environment like this or at this scale. I had actually traveled to Fort Walton Beach to let go of 8 people in January with a director of mine, only to then have to layoff that director. It was an incredibly difficult experience.
Then Sunday came around and we received an email from our CEO calling an emergency meeting for Sunday night. We all knew this couldn’t be good. We joined, and long story short were told that the cuts were not enough and that we would need to go deeper – this time eliminating up to 70% of our teams. The caveat, and only silver lining, was that we were going to furlough and not layoff. In three months we were expecting to bring people back, but we all discussed and knew that we have no confidence in that estimate. They were also being furloughed without pay, but would keep their health insurance. So with that, I went back to the exercise of doing a deeper cut knowing that I may never bring these people back.
The other item was that we were not moving to a 50% salary reduction for execs, and a 25% reduction for those that made over $75k. I am not sure what inflation will do to salaries by the time you read this, but as I write this making $210k in Boise is far more than enough money to support a great lifestyle. But with this we were going to $110k, and with no guarantees that I would even be able to keep my job. I had not, until this time, ever worried about job security – but I was frightened. We buttoned up our finances, starting eating leftovers (you mom always makes fun of me because I hate leftovers and love takeout), no more takeout, canceled all unnecessary subscriptions, deferred our mortgage six months, started discussing every expense and so on.
On Friday, March 25th 2020, I furloughed another 52 employees without pay. I did it over a Zoom videoconference. 96 of the 108 people that existed previously were now either let go or furloughed, leaving the team at 12 employees.
At this point not everything was shut down just yet. In April all of the businesses I mentioned above would close their doors either temporarily or forever. The night of the furlough it finally hit me what I had done. I went to a bar to think about it.
I had sent 96 people home to their families to tell them that they have no more income during a time where they could not find a job, and that there were very little prospects for them to find work in the near or even long term. I started thinking about moms and dads having to tell their kids about it, how the things they had been promised are no longer possible. Married couples (which the other spouse may also be in the same boat) sitting down to figure out how to pay the bills. I thought about if I was the one that had to come home and tell you guys that we might have to move to a different home or go to a different school as a result of this. I also thought about how lucky I was, and that made me feel even more grief – and that me even being allowed to be sad or grieve or whatever was selfish in its own right. I was not the one going home delivering this news, I was the one causing it to happen. Why do I deserve to be upset over it? Not much gets to me, I am an “it is what it is” type of person – but this was genuinely the first time in my life that I felt overwhelmed and didn’t know how to handle it. I got back in my car, I drove home, I parked in the garage, and I started to cry like I had never cried before.
I don’t know what the relationship will look like with your mom and me when you read this. It is a long time from now, and marriage is something you work at every day. But I will say that night she was exactly what I needed and helped me through it. We sat on the couch in the den while she held me and I bawled like a baby, unloading on her an amount of emotions I have never done with anyone before. She just listened. She has always encouraged me to be more emotional and open up more often, and that night she got all the pent up emotion she could handle. I do not know that there will ever be a tougher thing that I have to do in my career, but I pray not.
This was the story I wanted to tell – what comes next is happy and unexpected. In May the travel market began to rebound as people wanted to get away. We had our biggest month as a company ever in June, and we brought back the vast majority of those who were furloughed. We even hired back a few that had been laid off as we tried to recover. Since then business has been incredible, I was paid back the money from my reduced salary, I received a raise and a bonus and we are on track to IPO. Throughout it all I was able to keep my optimism, which I think at the end of the day is what got me through it.
At this time we are still mostly at home. This applies to my work, but to you both as well. Let’s talk about that.
Harper – you are currently doing virtual learning. You will see some pictures of you on a laptop where you are doing Zoom calls with your class and teachers. You are in first grade and really focusing on reading and math. You like virtual learning but get annoyed with it relatively easily and begin to act up a bit. I am working from home and pretty pre-occupied, so your mom is bearing the brunt. Virtual learning is hard and definitely not as effective. That said, it looks like you will be back in school soon with a mask mandate. This is a hotly debated topic right now as to whether kids should be in school or at home. Since you go to a private school, they are able to take measures not available at public schools. Public will stay virtual for the foreseeable future. Your mom is adamantly against in person learning due to the covid risk. I am on the fence, as the effectiveness rate of the virus on younger people is far more minimal, and I think you will learn more in a classroom than on a computer. You learn to read in first grade and to me that trumps the risk – not by a lot but by enough.
Ethan – your school got flat out cancelled. Fortunately you are in like pre-pre-school so it’s not a big deal. Only concern is socialization, but pretty confident that you will still have plenty of time to figure that out. You are also a pretty outgoing kid and already had one year at Wesleyan. so the risk is low. Plan is for you to attend again starting next fall. You get packets sent home from school that you work on, and sometimes even enjoy. For the most part this is a time for you to play and get a lot of time with mom and I.
The covid-19 pandemic has taken a toll on many lives in many different ways. I have to say it is like living in a movie sometimes, like when you drive through downtown and don’t see a single person. Or look at pictures of major cities like NYC or San Francisco and there is not a soul to be seen. We still do not have a vaccine, and until we do life likely won’t get back to normal. Even then who know how long it will take to reach some level of normalcy, but at least the hope is that we might be able to socialize in some capacity again.
I think this is a post that I missed so many things but likely is the longest one I have ever written. I will add additional comments that are unique to you both below, as the next one for Ethan won’t be until 11/15 and I imagine over the next 2.5 months we will see a lot of changes. I hope the story above is at least worth reading, and I selfishly took the opportunity to write it. Hopefully it provides some insight into me, the time we are in, and the thoughts happening in the moment.
While covid has been terrible for many, from the pictures you will see in your posts, it was not for us. It brought us closer together and gave us more time with each other. Overall I think it made us a stronger family. All the pictures are happy, and that is not a facade but rather a reflection just how amazing you both are in your ability to look at the good in life. I love you guys very much.
Bike
Ok, so back to just your Harper Mae – this section is unique to your website. One other thing that was a benefit of this time is that I was able to teach you how to write a bike!
It was end of March, and as you can probably figure based on the story above I was a bit down. One day you came to me and said you wanted your training wheels off. So we went out to the garage and took them off and started riding around the driveway while I held you. Well, you are not one to fail. Has never been your style. You didn’t walk until you were 14 months old, but once you did you never fell. You didn’t ski until 5, and you clung to me the first few times, but again, once you decided to do it you were great at it. Riding a bike was the same.
The driveway was not a great place to teach you so we went to Baggley Park down the street. We went into the grass and had you try a few times. You made me hold you and not let go, and when I did let go scolded me for doing so. After about an hour you had a couple decent rides. We went back the next day and I took you on the cement path. I got you going and you said let go – then proceeded to ride about 30 feet before putting your feet down and stopping. We did that another 20 or so times, and by the end you were able to ride a couple hundred yards before stopping.
On the third day we went and you rode the entire path all by yourself. You never fell. I taught you how to start on your own and get going, and since then you have ridden your bike nearly every day. You impress me every time you try something new with not just your devotion to figuring it out, but your competitive nature to master it.
Ok this post has gone on long enough. I want you to know how proud I am about the way you are growing up. You are kind, loving, mannered and just an all around good person. Could not ask for a better Buggy.
You are turning six today (well, you turned six recently and have probably found out I don’t write these in real time every time). You are in the third quarter of your kindergarten year at St. Joes. As you can see from the pictures, you are starting to look like a real human :). You have had a number of new experiences I will discuss, but it’s worth mentioning that when I write these I don’t always reflect back on what I wrote last time so there may be redundancies. Plus my memory is garbage so…
If you had not noticed based on the pictures, you and Ethan are incredibly close. You guys play every day, and for two kids this small you get along surprisingly well. You also still play with the girls next door and down the street. Mom is not a big fan of the girls (although not surprising since she isn’t a fan of most), but you have a great time. After school and over breaks that is where most of your time is spent.
Skiing
As always we took a number of trips to SV. The difference this time was that you went skiing on Dollar! I took you up on the lift, we got off, and you were so brave. We went down the hill as I skied backwards in front of you. The first time down you were noticeably nervous, but in true Buggy fashion by the time you got to the bottom you wanted to race back up. We spent a couple hours doing this routine, and you never fell once.
We did a lot of skiing this year. We even went to McCall and you got to ski with Ali and Maci from our street. With them you were even more brave as they had a lot more experience – but you totally hung with them. We skied for a few hours again and you had a blast. We actually went to McCall for your birthday and celebrated it in a cabin there. My Aunt Jane and her wife Karen joined us and we all had an amazing time.
Outside of that we got another half a dozen or so days on the mountain in Boise at Bogus. We got you some lessons with a guy, Kihle, that you really liked. You are timid in your approach, but you figure things out quickly without ever falling. I would go ski during your one hour lessons, and then we would normally get hot chocolate. It is only about a 45 minute drive to the base so we made it a normal routine either on the weekend or after school. We also skied together a few times if you didn’t have a lesson or after it.
I love skiing with you so much. You are so much fun to watch and you have such a great time. My hope is that we can do it together for the rest of my life.
Tucson
We also took a trip to Tucson in January to see Boppy and his new house. Boppy built a new house on a very cool plot of land in the desert in Tucson. For the first time that you could really understand you were exposed to the desert. We went in January so it wouldn’t be too hot.
While in Tucson we did a bunch of stuff. We started with the children’s museum, where you learned about cactus, trains and desert animals. We took the trolly from university where we got to walk campus a bit and you could see where I went to school, and even the dorm your mom lived in during her one year there. At the museum you, and Ethan, especially liked the train part. You dressed up as engineers and conductors and pretended for quite a while. On the way out we got you Dippin’ Dots which you had not had at the time, and since have grown to love.
After the children’s museum we went to the Tucson Train Museum. As you know, Boppy worked for the railroad for 42 years. What you might not know is that he was the 5th generation of Donegan’s to work on trains – I busted the streak. After that we had some amazing Mexican food at Cafe Poca Cosa downtown, and headed back.
While there we say Nonnie and Boppie Barnes a lot, went and saw Brad and Beth Benites one night to have a pizza dinner, drove by the airfields of retired airplanes, and one night Aunt Maddie and Boppy babysat you so mom and I could go to dinner at Tito and Pep. But the highlight of the trip was of course…
OUR FIRST UA BASKETBALL GAME!!!
On game-day we went to McKale Center, parked in the Cherry Creek garage, and sat about 20 rows up in the southeast corner. We brought you and Ethan ear protection for the sold out game. You, me, Ethan, mom and Boppy came and we had a great time. Well…Boppy and I had a great time. About halftime you and Ethan were pretty bored and spent the second half on our phones playing games. Boppy and I jumped and yelled and cheered the Cats on to a win.
While this is non-consequential for you, and something that you may never be interested in (although at home when I watch games you get excited about watching “Bear Down” rather than the Wildcats), it was something I have wanted to do with you since before you were born. When you were little we went to McKale and walked the courts, but a game was so different. This was something that I shared with my dad and uncle growing up, and to share it with you and Ethan was more than I could have hoped for.
Daddy/Daughter Dance
Speaking of things I have been wanting to do before you were born…we went to our first daddy/daughter dance at your school. Fortunately, you don’t get to pick your date and was stuck with me.
As you can see from the picture, I got you a corsage and you got me a boutonnière. We went to dinner at 13th Street in Hyde Park and then went over to the dance. We took pictures in a photo booth with silly props, and then proceeded to dance for about an hour.
You were about as cute as they come, and seemed genuinely proud to be there with me. This was not the case with all the girls and their dads, and whether you were just pretending to make me feel better or really was proud doesn’t matter. There was nothing crazy or memorable about the night other than its significance…that you are on your way to becoming a young lady.
As with every year that goes by there is so much I miss in talking about here and only highlight a few items. I wish I could write daily, as there is enough content to do so. Regardless, I am so happy and excited and proud of who you are becoming. Please stay sweet and amazing, and I can’t wait to write to you again soon.
As the title give away, this post will focus on likely the largest milestone to date – you started kindergarten!
This post might be a bit shorter than normal because things are a bit nutty right now. That said, the last six months have been exciting as always.
You played T-ball this year, and as you can see from the picture below you LOVED it. Ok, that’s a bit of an exaggeration. You enjoyed hitting but not really fielding, running, the outfits, the gear you had to wear or much else. I took you to all your games and mom and Ethan came to watch. You hit pretty well, and running is improving. Fielding though, especially with a bunch of boys, was not your thing. You were the only girl on your team (although that didn’t phase you a bit), and 5/6 year old boys are, well, annoying. When playing in the field I would go out with you to help everyone. The ball would be hit, and every boy would run as fast as possible and dog pile on it – then struggle to pull it away from one another. You would stay back and let them have it.
The best part was the look on your face when this occurred. You would stare at them like they were terrible idiots. There was a specific case where it was more disgust than anything – “how could they be so dumb” sums it up well. There was one occasion where the ball came your way, you fielded it and as a boy came over and tried to grab it you yanked it away. It was great.
Outside of T-ball, you can see we also took some trips. Palm Desert was great, you guys love it there. We try to get there at least once a year. We went to McCall as well and stayed in one of my company’s units. Also did some SV trips and are planning some more for next year.
You are also maturing at a rapid rate. You are beginning to read (although it’s rough), getting better with numbers and growing quickly. You are also beautiful – so unbelievably beautiful.
Kindergarten
The big item this time around is that you started real school as a kindergartner at St. Joe’s Catholic School. You started last month, and so far you LOVE it. You have made friends like Remi, Lucy and Norah, plus others. Your teacher is Mrs. Howard, and, of course, your favorite subject is Art. You do also love P.E. (where I volunteer quite a bit for your class), and music. You are also taking Spanish which you really enjoy.
You might be curious as to why you are attending a catholic school. It is a fair question. We, as you know, are not religious – and I personally have an affinity for making fun of organized religion in general. This runs contrary to our decision, but while the religious aspect was a detractor let me give you some reasons:
It is a great education. They take the time to work with you, and the class sizes are manageable.
The Boise public school system is not good – Idaho in general ranks 48th in the country regarding academic standards.
You are an organized individual and do not flourish in chaos. What better place to go than a regimented catholic institution?
St. Joe’s is a feeder school for Bishop Kelly, one of the best high schools in the state.
While we are not religious, you are getting exposure to religion you would not get otherwise. Since you won’t get it from us, at least you are getting it from them as it is very important to know religious history (although your least favorite activity is going to Mass each week).
It is right outside of downtown, which allows me to bring you to school everyday on my way to the office.
It is wholesome, and they teach solid lessons. Right now (at your age) it is all about the importance of being a good person – what better lesson is there?
Being that it is a private school, they are able to do things from an academic and teaching perspective not available to public (basically because we pay tuition, so more money = greater opportunities in this case).
You love it. At least so far. If that changes all this goes out the window and we will start from scratch.
Your teachers all speak incredibly highly of you, calling out your polite demeanor and manners. They love having you in class and use you as an example of what is right. I guess your mom and I aren’t messing up too badly so far.
Normally I take you to school (you have to be there by 8am) and your mom picks you up. This differs when I am traveling or we have an instance where we can switch it up. My favorite days are the ones where I leave the office and walk to your school to pick you up (always surprise you, never let you know ahead of time). We then walk back to my office where you get snacks. You love how fully stocked our office always is with snacks, and you and I hang out for a bit before your mom comes and gets you. You are obviously a favorite of our office staff, specifically Kristi (who is catholic and went to catholic school growing up).
You are only a month or so in to school so we will see how it goes, but so far so good. You are still a bit shy but that is changing by the day. You have maintained your sweet, kind attitude, and with that invites people to take advantage. This has yet to occur, and we hope that having you at a school where personality traits are treated with the same importance as academic ones, that this will help restrict those negative outcomes. Won’t be perfect, but I think you are setup pretty well.
Outside of school you have remained pretty consistent. Your art and creativity is unparalleled, and we have hundreds, if not thousands, of art pieces you have made. You play with the neighborhood girls everyday, even though you don’t go to the same school. You still love Ethan more than anything in the world, and are the best big sister anyone could ask for.
I am so proud of who you are and who you are becoming. Talk to you in a few months, when you turn 6!
